Conflict

CONFLICT

Why do we avoid discussing and resolving conflicts? If the conflict is avoided and ignored, will it go away?

Do we simply fear “upsetting the apple cart” and possibly escalating the conflict? Do we want to avoid being an antagonist?

Are we afraid that tempers may flair? Are we afraid to start “something”?

Are we afraid of voices becoming loud?

Are we afraid that we may say something that we might later regret?

Are we afraid of what we might hear in return?

Are we afraid that we may become physically injured by someone who may disagree?

Are we afraid of irreparably damaging our delicate relations with others?

Do we fear that nothing will be resolved through discussing the conflict but yet contention will remain?

Are we afraid that we may discover difference and not know how to handle it?

Do we fear relationships that challenge our personal comfort zone?

Are we afraid to have a meaningful discussion? Can we disagree and still love each other?

Are we too proud to listen to reason? Is it possible to learn from a conflict?

Are we too selfish to see how our conflict affects those around us, like second hand smoke?

Is it not in our best interest to iron out the wrinkles so that the conflict does not continue to fester through generations?

SUBMITTED BY Todd A. Thomas
Peace and Justice Committee, Atlantic Northeast District Church of the Brethren